Failing to Act

If you are like me, sometimes you will receive a spiritual prompting from the Lord on the changes that you need to make in your life. At least, I assume I'm not the only imperfect person out there that God is shaping and improving.

If you are also like me, sometimes the changes you need to make are something you have struggled with off and on for a while. Such as, daily scripture study and personal prayer. Nothing "huge" necessarily, but something important that sometimes is forgotten about for a day or two, and then it slips out of habit again and you forget about it entirely for a while.

Recently, I asked God how I could improve and what He needed me to do in my own life. Between Stake Conference and General Conference, I received my answer. I was given a longer list than I anticipated, but I knew that those were the changes that God needs me to make. I wrote them down and vowed to myself to follow through.

Nearly a month later, I haven't been doing quite as well as I should be. I still forget, I procrastinate, and I put other things first sometimes. God is very loving and patient with us, thank goodness, because I was reminded again today about the things I had committed to changing. However, the reminder came in a different form than the list I had received before: this was a chastisement on the lack of priority I gave to the changes I need to make.

This was the thought that came to me and that I wrote down this time:

"No matter what else my schedule demands of me, I need to prioritize acting on what God has asked me to do. In the eternities, it will be more important for me to have acted on what God asked me to do than getting any degree, taking any test, finishing any paper, or accomplishing any other temporal achievement.

God doesn't want me overburdening myself because He knows that if I do, I will have a hard time keeping the things that He wants me to do in my life. If I don't have time to still do the things God asked of me and add _______________ to my schedule, then I don't have enough time to add _________________ to my schedule. I need to reserve my time for God as I have already covenanted to do.

When God corrects me, I need to act on that correction as if my very soul depends on it, for as far as I know, it may."

Changing isn't always easy, and sometimes acting on the "small" changes God needs us to make gets put on the back burner while we focus on the "more important things". I testify that there is nothing more important than acting on the promptings that we receive from God. I know that this is true. May we all have the courage to "go and do" the things the Lord commands of us.

In the name of Jesus Christ,
Amen.

A God Who Weeps

One of the most powerful things that I have learned in my life is that my Father in Heaven weeps. He cries for us and with us. And, more important to my learning of this, He weeps with ME! I learned this after an evening spent in tears, begging God to fix my body so that I could have a baby. This could have been any trial, any unrealized blessing... I asked my husband for a blessing, hoping to hear that the trial was over and that the blessing was forthcoming. What I received was much different. I was told that God always keeps His promises, and that someday I would be able to look back and understand why I am going through this trial. I knew that meant that God was not going to take it away just yet, but someday He would make it clear why I had to go through it.

During this blessing, I received a prompting that I felt so strongly that I remember it more than what my husband was saying just then. It was this: "God cries with you." Every time that I had cried to God, weeping, begging, pleading, a loving and merciful Father in Heaven was there, listening to me, seeing my pain, and crying with me. He took no pleasure in causing me pain by withholding blessings and prolonging a trial that I had not brought on myself. I believe that this is true of trails we have brought upon ourselves as well. No matter what brought it on, our Father in Heaven does not like watching His beloved children suffer. He is our God, our Father in Heaven, our Abba (a Hebrew term that, in English, would mean roughly the same as Daddy). No matter how far we have strayed, He is still our Father. He still loves and aches for us when we are hurting.

However, He loves me enough to not give it to me just yet. He knows why I must go through this painful journey, and He knows that someday I will be happier, stronger, and better for having gone through it. This trial is a part of His Plan of Salvation for me.

Until the day that God has foreordained this trial to end and the windows of Heaven to open up and pour out the blessings I have asked Him for, God stands with me, crying when I cry. Even though He already knows when the blessing is coming, even though He knows why we must go through it and can see how much stronger and happier we will be because of it in the long run, He still cries with us during the meantime, listening to us, loving us, and supporting and sustaining us.

Reading The Book of Mormon

At the end of my last semester in school, I was struggling to focus and put my best effort into my papers and finals. I felt like I was in a fog and I couldn't get myself to concentrate. Finally, I asked my husband for a Priesthood Blessing.

However, instead of being given the blessing to focus and concentrate immediately from the blessing, I was chastised in that blessing. I was, essentially, scolded for not doing my personal scripture study. I was promised that I would be able to have the energy, focus, and drive for school that I needed on the condition that I did my personal scripture study first.

The next morning, I got up early, went to the couch, and read my scriptures until Andrew's alarm went off (the one that I used to be getting up to). For the first time in a couple of weeks, I was alert, energetic, and had the ability to concentrate and work on my paper. I knew then and I know now that that was a direct result of my obedience to the chastisement and council that I received in that blessing.

This is just one of the many examples that I have had in my life that confirms to me that not only is The Book of Mormon the word of God, but that God blesses us when we are in them daily and studying from them.

In 1st Nephi 1:8-15, Lehi has a vision where the heavens open and he sees God sitting on His throne, surrounded by angels. Then, One descends from heaven, followed by twelve others, and gives Lehi a book, and asks him to read. As he is reading, he is filled with the Spirit of the Lord, and after he is done reading he exclaims praises unto the Lord, and his soul rejoices and his heart is filled because of the things he has seen.

Now, the important part that I want to get at is in verses 11-12. Lehi is given a book and bade to read. Likewise, we have received The Book of Mormon in our day, and God had communicated to us through His prophets that He wants us to study it. When we read The Book of Mormon, we too can be filled with the Spirit of the Lord. This is just one of the many blessings we have been promised if we study from The Book of Mormon.

President Ezra Taft Benson taught that “There is a power in the book which will begin to flow into your lives the moment you begin a serious study of the book. You will find greater power to resist temptation. You will find the power to avoid deception. You will find the power to stay on the straight and narrow path. The scriptures are called “the words of life”, and nowhere is that more true than it is of the Book of Mormon. When you begin to hunger and thirst after those words, you will find life in greater and greater abundance. These promises – increased love in the home, greater respect between parent and child, increased spirituality and righteousness – these are not idle promises, but exactly what the Prophet Joseph Smith meant when he said the Book of Mormon will help us draw nearer to God.”

I testify that these promises are real, and that God keeps His promises to His children. I know that The Book of Mormon is the word of God, and that Joseph Smith acted as an instrument in The Lord's hands in helping to bring The Book of Mormon forth to us in these latter-days through his translation of the records. I know that Joseph Smith was a prophet of God, and that President Thomas S. Monson is the living prophet on the earth today. I urge you to read The Book of Mormon, and to receive for yourself the blessings promised to you by God if you will study with a sincere heart, with real intent, and with faith in Christ. I also urge you to take Moroni up on his promise found in Moroni 10:3-5, that after reading The Book of Mormon, that "if ye shall [pray] with a sincere heart, with real intent, and with faith in Christ, [God] will manifest the truth of it unto you, by the power of the Holy Ghost."

I say these things in the name of Jesus Christ, my Savior and Redeemer. Amen.

Strengthening Our Family (Relations)

My husband and I were asked to speak on family relations, strengthening the family, and teaching the gospel to our family a couple of months ago, and I wanted to share my talk with you.

These topics are especially important to me.  Let me explain why. I am the second of nine children, and we all grew up in a family active in the church. However, despite the impression everyone in the ward I grew up in had about my family being absolutely perfect, my parents divorce was finalized February 2011. I have seen glimpses of the wonderful blessings that come from being obedient to the doctrine of the family, but I have seen much more of the horrible nightmares that come when you fall astray from them.

I know without a doubt that the family is absolutely sacred and essential to the gospel. It is no surprise to me that Satan is constantly redoubling his efforts on his attacks towards the family during this dispensation when our strongest spirits are coming forth, having been saved for these last days. Sister Julie B. Beck has said, “This generation will be called upon to defend the doctrine of the family as never before in the history of the world. If they don't know it, they can't defend it.” If we wish to be able to withstand the attacks of the adversary on our family units, we must know what it is that we are defending, how we can best strengthen our families against these attacks, and how we can teach this doctrine to our children so that they can also defend it.

So what are we defending? A family is built up of individual people, and our relationships with each of them are entirely unique. Before we can strengthen the whole, we must strive to be strengthening our family relations individually.

In our “Building an Eternal Marriage” Institute class, we were taught that, in the order of things, we should first take care of our own spiritual health and well-being. We cannot fully take care of our other responsibilities if we ourselves are deprived of that important relationship with our Father in Heaven. Second is our spouses; not the children yet. Note how in the temple, the parents are sealed first and then the children are brought in and are sealed to their parents. The marriage relationship comes first. Third, then, come our children, and fourth our profession.

First : Our Relationship Between Yourself & God

This means that the first relationship we should be focusing on strengthening is the one between ourselves and God. This relationship blesses us in so many ways. As the Spirit is present in our lives, we are blessed with a more cheerful disposition, more energy and strength to bear the stresses and worries in life, and we are more in tune with the promptings of God that will help us dictate our relationship with others.

Second : Our Relationship With Our Spouse

The second relationship we need to focus on is the one we have with our spouses. It was always difficult for me watching my parents fight growing up. Sometimes it was over finances, other times it was over miscommunications, and other times it was over pretty much nothing at all. 

President Thomas S. Monson has advised us to “never let a problem to be solved become more important than a person to be loved.” I desperately wish that my own parents had heeded that council, for that slip up in priorities was a large factor in their divorce, although there were definitely many others.

Our spouses are to be cherished. Brethren, your wives are daughters of God, and deserve your love and respect. It always bothered me when my father would make snide remarks about my mother, devaluing her as a daughter of God and mocking her beautiful gift of motherhood. Sisters, support and encourage and love your husbands. They need to feel appreciated, accepted, loved, and not like they’re only receiving criticism. In this lifetime, our marriage is a probationary marriage. We have to work to qualify for a celestial and everlasting marriage like unto the marriage God Himself enjoys. You’re not going to have your spouse eternally unless at the end of the probation they decide they want to have you.

Third : Our Relationship With Our Children

The third prioritized relationship is with our children. When I was very small, my father used to take me out on Daddy-Daughter dates. I loved this special one-on-one time with him where I could have his undivided attention on just me so I could talk to him about whatever I wanted. It made me feel connected to him. Children need these connections, although they may not always be expressive in showing these needs or outgoing in their efforts to reach out for them. Parents need to be a part of their children’s lives and know what’s happening.

So how do we strengthen our families? Elder M. Russell Ballard voiced the same question in his talk “What Matters Most Is What Lasts Longest”, and then offered these three simple suggestions to help answer the question he posed:

1.       “Be consistent in holding daily family prayer and weekly family home evenings. Both of these invite the Lord’s Spirit, which provides the help and power we need as parents and family leaders…

2.       Teach the gospel and basic values in your home. Establish a love for reading the scriptures together… Be wise and do not involve children or yourselves in so many activities out of the home that you are so busy that the Spirit of the Lord cannot be recognized or felt in giving you the promised guidance for yourself and your family. Create meaningful family bonds that will give your children an identity stronger than what they can find with their peer group or at school or anyplace else..."

My family was also strengthened by doing things together. They never had to be big things. Working on our family garden, flying kites together, going camping, or washing the dishes together as we told ridiculous stories and laughed over them are just a few of many examples of things that have strengthened our family bonds.

We can also strengthen our families by bringing the Spirit of the Lord into our home through the teaching of the gospel.

“(Our children) could be led away if they don't understand their part in the plan... Teach them so they don't misunderstand.” Make sure “that every doctrine, every principle, everything you're teaching leads them to the fullness of the gospel.” - Sister Julie B. Beck

This may sound more difficult than it really is. It can be achieved through small things, such as setting aside time to have Family Home Evening together. When I was growing up, we hardly ever held Family Home Evening, and when we did it seemed more like a family lecture time than anything else. Make sure that when you reserve the time for Family Home Evening, you are reserving it to teach the gospel to your family. Elder M. Russell Ballard said that “Too many of our parents are abdicating this responsibility to the church. While seminary, auxiliaries, and priesthood quorums are important as a supplement to parental gospel instruction, the main responsibility rests in the home. You might want to choose one gospel subject or a family value and then watch for opportunities to teach it.” He also added “The church curriculum and magazines have many good ideas for family home evening. Also consider holding a family testimony meeting where parents and children can express their beliefs and feelings to each other in a private and personal setting.”

While I was receiving knowledge of the gospel in seminary throughout high school, there was an absence of that Spirit in our own home due to the negligence on our part in making Family Home Evening, scripture study, family prayer, or any other activity that invited the Spirit into our home a priority. After my parent’s divorce, however, my family started doing them more together, and the Spirit began to dwell in our home.

When striving to teach the gospel in their home, families should also take the time to study the scriptures together regularly so that they can learn and follow the teachings of the Lord.

“I feel certain that if, in our homes parents will read from the Book of Mormon prayerfully and regularly, both by themselves and with their children, the spirit of that great book will come to permeate our homes and all who dwell therein. The spirit of reverence will increase, mutual respect and consideration for each other will grow. The spirit of contention will depart. Parents will counsel their children in greater love and wisdom. Children will be more responsive and submissive to that counsel. Righteousness will increase. Faith, hope, and charity – the pure love of Christ – will abound in our homes and lives, bringing in their wake peace, joy, and happiness.” - Elder Marion G. Romney

President Ezra Taft Benson also taught that “There is a power in the book which will begin to flow into your lives the moment you begin a serious study of the book. You will find greater power to resist temptation. You will find the power to avoid deception. You will find the power to stay on the straight and narrow path. The scriptures are called “the words of life”, and nowhere is that more true than it is of the Book of Mormon. When you begin to hunger and thirst after those words, you will find life in greater and greater abundance. These promises – increased love in the home, greater respect between parent and child, increased spirituality and righteousness – these are not idle promises, but exactly what the Prophet Joseph Smith meant when he said the Book of Mormon will help us draw nearer to God.”

After the divorce, I was able to see the blessings that came into our home through having family scripture study and I was able to receive my own testimony to know that our efforts to bring the Spirit into our own home are greatly blessed by our getting up each morning to study the scriptures together, especially when we are consistent at it.

I testify that the family is absolutely sacred and essential to the gospel, and that as we grow to understand what it is that we are defending, establish our family relations as a priority in our lives, continually strive to strengthen our families, and invite the Spirit into our home through the teaching of the gospel to our children, we and our families will be able to withstand the attacks of the adversary on our family and be richly blessed by the Lord. In the name of our Savior and Redeemer, Jesus Christ, Amen.

What Do We Believe? The Thirteen Articles of Faith

1. We believe in God, the Eternal Father, and in His Son, Jesus Christ, and in the Holy Ghost.
   
2. We believe that men will be punished for their own sins, and not for Adam's transgression.
   
3. We believe that through the Atonement of Christ, all mankind may be saved, by obedience to the laws and ordinances of the Gospel.
   
4. We believe that the first principles and ordinances of the Gospel are: first, Faith in the Lord Jesus Christ; second, Repentance; third, Baptism by immersion for the remission of sins; fourth, Laying on of hands for the gift of the Holy Ghost.
   
5. We believe that a man must be called of God, by prophecy, and by the laying on of hands by those who are in authority, to preach the Gospel and administer in the ordinances thereof.
   
6. We believe in the same organization that existed in the Primitive Church, namely, apostles, prophets, pastors, teachers, evangelists, and so forth.
   
7. We believe in the gift of tongues, prophecy, revelation, visions, healing, interpretation of tongues, and so forth.
   
8. We believe the Bible to be the word of God as far as it is translated correctly; we also believe the Book of Mormon to be the word of God.
   
9. We believe all that God has revealed, all that He does now reveal, and we believe that He will yet reveal many great and important things pertaining to the Kingdom of God.
   
10. We believe in the literal gathering of Israel and in the restoration of the Ten Tribes; that Zion (the New Jerusalem) will be built upon the American continent; that Christ will reign personally upon the earth; and, that the earth will be renewed and receive its paradisiacal glory.
    
11. We claim the privilege of worshiping Almighty God according to the dictates of our own conscience, and allow all men the same privilege, let them worship how, where, or what they may.
    
12. We believe in being subject to kings, presidents, rulers, and magistrates, in obeying, honoring, and sustaining the law.
    
13. We believe in being honest, true, chaste, benevolent, virtuous, and in doing good to all men; indeed, we may say that we follow the admonition of Paul—We believe all things, we hope all things, we have endured many things, and hope to be able to endure all things. If there is anything virtuous, lovely, or of good report or praiseworthy, we seek after these things.

Joseph Smith

Special Witnesses of Christ

I know that my Redeemer lives, and I know that we live in a time of living prophets on this earth. In this last dispensation, we have the blessing of having the fullness of the gospel restored to this earth. I know that if we listen to their teachings, that the Lord will speak to us individually through them (D&C 1:37-38) and He will not allow them to lead us astray. I pray that as you watch this video the Spirit of their testifying witnesses will touch you.

I bear testimony of these things in the name of my Savior and Redeemer, Jesus Christ, Amen.

Gifts & Talents

"For all have not every gift given unto them; for there are many gifts, and to every man is given a gift by the Spirit of God. To some is given one, and to some is given another, that all may be profited thereby," (D&C 46:11-12)

"Let us review some of these less-conspicuous gifts: the gift of asking; the gift of listening; the gift of hearing and using a still, small voice; the gift of being able to weep; the gift of avoiding contention; the gift of being agreeable; the gift of avoiding vain repetition; the gift of seeking that which is righteous; the gift of not passing judgment; the gift of looking to God for guidance; the gift of being a disciple; the gift of caring for others; the gift of being able to ponder; the gift of offering prayer; the gift of bearing a mighty testimony; and the gift of receiving the Holy Ghost." -Elder Marvin J. Ashton

Even on top of these characteristic gifts, there are spiritual gifts that we may have, as described in D&C 46.

In this life, so many people get caught up in what they can or cannot do. As a Mia Maid, we were sitting in class learning about talents. The instructor, my Mia Maid adviser, had each of us go around and list what we are talented at before we would go on to learn about the lesson on Talents. The girls went around and listed a few. When it got to me, I was able to prattle off several without having to think about it too hard. My Mia Maid adviser went last, and she hesitated. "I can't really think of anything I am talented at, I've never been particularly good at anything, unless walking to go visit people counts." As the lesson wore on, the Spirit touched us, and my teacher cried and smiled, and we left feeling strengthened. However, one thing bugged me. That my instructor, now a grandmother and a righteous, faithful member of the church, could even think she had no talents. I went home with a self-made homework assignment. The next week, I came up to her and handed her a piece of paper. On it was a list of talents I saw in her, as well as using the help of the quote by Marvin J. Ashton.

Four years later, I was discussing with a friend my seemingly endless list of talents and abilities. "List them for me," he requested, "even the ones I already know." As I began listing, I quickly reached 20 different talents. Satisfied that that must be all, I talked to my mom about it. She gave me a strange look, and said, "Just twenty? You have more than that. Let’s see, did you include..." The list was lengthened, and I went to the Relief Society General Broadcast trying to create my own list of talents. As I began writing, I hesitated on some of the talents my mom had listed for me. "Kindness is a characteristic trait, Mom." I pointed out. "Is that even considered a talent?" My mom looked at me. "Where do you think your characteristics come from?" A feeling of peace came over me as I acknowledged my Heavenly Father's hand in my own traits and qualities. After all, He is the Father of my Spirit, where all of my attributes really lie.
We sat down and were listening to the broadcast, when suddenly a thought struck me, and I began writing.

"Heavenly Father would not have blessed me with all of my talents if He didn't know I would use them to help others, and enlighten and lift them, and they have all been given me for specific reasons and purposes throughout my life as I serve and stay receptive to the promptings of the Holy Ghost. These talents, attributes, and my temperament are amplified best as I allow myself to be an instrument in his hands."

I believe this to be true. We all have been blessed with divine gifts and talents, even going down to so simple as just attributes and characteristics that are divine and from God, our Father. Some have other gifts and talents, like the ability to listen, to cry, and spiritual gifts such as bearing a testimony or having the gift of tongues. Others have physical talents, such as athletics, musical abilities, or home keeping skills such as sewing or cooking. But all of these talents will best be amplified, in a manner that we can use them to bless the lives of others, as we live in accordance to the will of our Heavenly Father.

This isn’t to say that some gifts can’t be given to us with the sole purpose of blessing ourselves. One person mentioned having a gift that seemed negligible whether it actually blessed people other than just himself. He said that having it helped him feel Heavenly Father’s love for him. In D&C 18, it talks about the worth of souls being great in the sight of God. And that if we even bring one soul unto him, how great shall be our joy in His kingdom. I had a seminary teacher point out that the first soul we must bring unto him is ourselves. I think that is easily connected to service, and the point this person brought up. Sometimes we do need to, in ways, serve ourselves, and our Heavenly Father blesses us that we may have joy. I do not doubt that would include talents that we are blessed with on an individual basis.

Another friend of mine had this thought to add:
Dave Ramsey, the most well-known financial person in America, said that everything on this earth is given to us by God to manage, but none of it belongs to us. He was referring to the more physical things, such as money or possessions, but this same principle is extended to our gifts and talents. Each of us have been given individual talents, but they don't necessarily belong to us. We are just given them to manage for Him. In other words, God gave us these gifts so that we may use them for Him. He trusted us with each and every ability we have so that we can manage them in a righteous way and hopefully help others see the beauty of God through the gifts and talents He has bestowed upon us.

Connect this thought, then with the Parable of the Talents, found in ST Matthew 25, starting in verse 14. When all of the servants return to their master, he asks for his talents, and in turn blesses them with so much more when they return having used them well for his purposes. Now, I cannot say how that meeting in Heaven will go as far as talents are concerned, but I believe that the way we use our talents and amplify them, whether for our own use or for the use of others, will be of importance in both our mortal existence and throughout the eternities.